This is a mindset common in teenagers and relatively normal there. Left unchecked, it can caused 40-year old virginity, since it becomes self-fulfilling.
If you think like that, it is almost impossible. Even though I have found that the line “if you don’t love yourself, how can anybody else love you” – is not true, it’s true to some part that the way you perceive yourself is how others will perceive you. Depending on how hard you believe it to be true. People have the greatest power of all in their minds, and don’t even know it for the most part.
@...dieAntagonista: it’s hard! I’m 22 so I’m not an idiot…but it’s almost exactly my life right now. 6 inch penis, average, not slut approved (so much for sex to cope) and I’m a nice guy (which isn’t cool around san jose, nothing but gangsters)
Well, the only parts I agree with are penis size, defending a girl, being confident and being a wuss.
@...casemods: Would you want a woman who likes you only because of the size of your penis? I’m not a man, but I think I’d be proud if I wasn’t slut approved.
Man I wish I lived in San Jose, I probably have no idea what it’s really like, but just to give you another perspective. I think you’re lucky. As for the gangsters, even better, you must be a real eye-catcher then. If it’s really like you say, the women there must be tired of the same macho fuss anyway. Even if they don’t admit it.
I know it’s hard to just not care, but think of it like this, you’re wasting time. In the end, your worries won’t affect anything in any positive way. You don’t have to be an asshole, but a little arrogance is healthy.
@...Nelson: It’s never true in reality. Only for each individual should he or she think that way. And the trick certainly isn’t to be just ok with it. Who wants to waste their life with a situation they don’t necessarily have to be in? You are what you think. That’s one of the truest things I have ever learned.
@...casemods: @...Nelson: The trick to not feeling worthless is quit being worthless. Do something productive with your life. Go accomplish things that your proud of. Have hobbies. Develop talents. Travel. Educate yourself. Excel at your profession. Sack up and take on the world. The girl problem will take care of itself.
@...reboot: I know successful doctors who have the same problems. You can feel worthless even if you’re not actually worthless.
But it’s true, if you don’t concentrate on a problem like that, and instead do things that will give you recognition, you’re solving the problem in no time.
@...dieAntagonista: meh, not sure if I agree with that, ever heard that the grass is always greener on the other side? no matter what you do, some people are just down on themselves.
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15 years ago
@...tiki god: Damn , that makes you sound……sober.@...casemods: There is only really one person your penis has to please: you. If it is in working condition, that is all it needs to be. If she wants more, well that is what Fingers, Lips, Teeth, Toes, and Toys are for. Let the golddiggers chase the gangsta bling. They will get what they deserve. There is alot more to strong than just the physical. Muscle is just animal flesh, easily misused, without a strong mind and a good heart. And hey, character is what you are in the dark: When the lights come on, are you standing there looking guilty?
@...tiki god: I know there are people like that all over the place. But that doesn’t change anything about the fact that it doesn’t have to be that way. If you define yourself only by the things that you can’t do or don’t have, then how is anybody supposed to see anything else but the lack of things in you? So far, I still have to meet someone who is down on themselves and has actually tried everything to make it better.
I am what people would call a worthless artsy student. But guess what, I treat everyone I meet with respect, I read many books, I laugh together with other worthless artsy students, I work in a small cafe as a waitress and I’m single. Now I could feel bad, because I’m not together with anybody, not rich, only pseudo intellectual and whatever else people feel bad about. Do you really think it’s necessary if happiness is only an emotion away?
There’s something to be said for being “ok” w/ it. So few people accept their looks, personality, natural attributes, etc…Once you accept who you are, you can work on who you want to be. Some things can not be changed, work w/ it. I know it’s used over and over again, but consider Bill Gates. He’s no looker, bright, but not a genius, good background but not exceptional. He made himself the person he is and he’s anything but worthless. How many here fit this? Prolly all of us. Being nothing special doesn’t mean you’ll always be nothing special. Chances are you are or will be something special to someone. Becoming who you are takes time; it doesn’t happen in 18, 21 or even 44 years. It’s a continuous process.
welcome to Dr.Phil ! international regions .. great advice.. wish someone told me that when i was in the shatter lol been there done that.. was no walk in the park doing by myself.
I used to have incredible low self worth, until I met my wife. Turns out I’m actually a very important international expert on a particular lucrative product for one of the largest tech companies in the world. In fact there’s very few people on the earth that know as much as I know about the product, and it makes my employer a lot of money. I just had to allow myself to see it. It doesn’t matter how useful or successful you are, it’s possible to have a bad view of yourself.
Then there are people that are the complete opposite, like the current Canadian Prime Minister that are completely useless and worthless, but think their own job is more important than hundreds of thousands of other jobs.
there is a self study which im experimenting on one of these topics which i learned so much. from understanding human reaction and response. Makes me pretty geeky lol but the data i have assembled. it’s outstanding.
lol i remember when i used to be like that before lol
Cheer up emo-kid. If everything fails you can always cut yourself, you know.
Shit was SO cash.
Lies.
Girls are just like ordinary people, they don’t know what they want…
Also: Booze.
This is a mindset common in teenagers and relatively normal there. Left unchecked, it can caused 40-year old virginity, since it becomes self-fulfilling.
@...The-Penetrator: emo-kid… hahah nice one … but i’m not from a american population
Yep, puberty can be a biiiig pile of shit.
@...The-Penetrator: You hear this man, Kaze? =P Nah, I love you, you idiot.
And not moar than one might think. 😀
What did I do to this image to incur such wrath
Why does it hate me.
This mindset fucks over so many people. It’s not impossible to find someone.
If you think like that, it is almost impossible. Even though I have found that the line “if you don’t love yourself, how can anybody else love you” – is not true, it’s true to some part that the way you perceive yourself is how others will perceive you. Depending on how hard you believe it to be true. People have the greatest power of all in their minds, and don’t even know it for the most part.
Self-fulfilling prophecy. Don’t believe this shit.
@...dieAntagonista: whoa whoa..if you want to make a good ending don’t forget to add ” and still don’t even know how to use it “.
@...ColombianMonkey: I agree. I think the vast majority of the population of the planet has the inability to use their minds. 😛
I’m 22 and I’m feeling like this.
@...casemods: You’re a fool, stop doing it.
@...dieAntagonista: it’s hard! I’m 22 so I’m not an idiot…but it’s almost exactly my life right now. 6 inch penis, average, not slut approved (so much for sex to cope) and I’m a nice guy (which isn’t cool around san jose, nothing but gangsters)
Well, the only parts I agree with are penis size, defending a girl, being confident and being a wuss.
how do you all know it’s not true? It’s all true for some people. Perhaps the trick is to be OK with it.
@...casemods: Would you want a woman who likes you only because of the size of your penis? I’m not a man, but I think I’d be proud if I wasn’t slut approved.
Man I wish I lived in San Jose, I probably have no idea what it’s really like, but just to give you another perspective. I think you’re lucky. As for the gangsters, even better, you must be a real eye-catcher then. If it’s really like you say, the women there must be tired of the same macho fuss anyway. Even if they don’t admit it.
I know it’s hard to just not care, but think of it like this, you’re wasting time. In the end, your worries won’t affect anything in any positive way. You don’t have to be an asshole, but a little arrogance is healthy.
@...Nelson: It’s never true in reality. Only for each individual should he or she think that way. And the trick certainly isn’t to be just ok with it. Who wants to waste their life with a situation they don’t necessarily have to be in? You are what you think. That’s one of the truest things I have ever learned.
@...casemods: @...Nelson: The trick to not feeling worthless is quit being worthless. Do something productive with your life. Go accomplish things that your proud of. Have hobbies. Develop talents. Travel. Educate yourself. Excel at your profession. Sack up and take on the world. The girl problem will take care of itself.
@...reboot: I know successful doctors who have the same problems. You can feel worthless even if you’re not actually worthless.
But it’s true, if you don’t concentrate on a problem like that, and instead do things that will give you recognition, you’re solving the problem in no time.
@...dieAntagonista: meh, not sure if I agree with that, ever heard that the grass is always greener on the other side? no matter what you do, some people are just down on themselves.
@...tiki god: Damn , that makes you sound……sober.@...casemods: There is only really one person your penis has to please: you. If it is in working condition, that is all it needs to be. If she wants more, well that is what Fingers, Lips, Teeth, Toes, and Toys are for. Let the golddiggers chase the gangsta bling. They will get what they deserve. There is alot more to strong than just the physical. Muscle is just animal flesh, easily misused, without a strong mind and a good heart. And hey, character is what you are in the dark: When the lights come on, are you standing there looking guilty?
@...tiki god: I know there are people like that all over the place. But that doesn’t change anything about the fact that it doesn’t have to be that way. If you define yourself only by the things that you can’t do or don’t have, then how is anybody supposed to see anything else but the lack of things in you? So far, I still have to meet someone who is down on themselves and has actually tried everything to make it better.
I am what people would call a worthless artsy student. But guess what, I treat everyone I meet with respect, I read many books, I laugh together with other worthless artsy students, I work in a small cafe as a waitress and I’m single. Now I could feel bad, because I’m not together with anybody, not rich, only pseudo intellectual and whatever else people feel bad about. Do you really think it’s necessary if happiness is only an emotion away?
that guy should be more like me.
then he’d be awesome, no matter how lame he was.
There’s something to be said for being “ok” w/ it. So few people accept their looks, personality, natural attributes, etc…Once you accept who you are, you can work on who you want to be. Some things can not be changed, work w/ it. I know it’s used over and over again, but consider Bill Gates. He’s no looker, bright, but not a genius, good background but not exceptional. He made himself the person he is and he’s anything but worthless. How many here fit this? Prolly all of us. Being nothing special doesn’t mean you’ll always be nothing special. Chances are you are or will be something special to someone. Becoming who you are takes time; it doesn’t happen in 18, 21 or even 44 years. It’s a continuous process.
welcome to Dr.Phil ! international regions .. great advice.. wish someone told me that when i was in the shatter lol been there done that.. was no walk in the park doing by myself.
LIES! Girls like geeks, and stick boy is obviously a geek, so girls will like him. He just needs to get off the computer and get outside.
I used to have incredible low self worth, until I met my wife. Turns out I’m actually a very important international expert on a particular lucrative product for one of the largest tech companies in the world. In fact there’s very few people on the earth that know as much as I know about the product, and it makes my employer a lot of money. I just had to allow myself to see it. It doesn’t matter how useful or successful you are, it’s possible to have a bad view of yourself.
Then there are people that are the complete opposite, like the current Canadian Prime Minister that are completely useless and worthless, but think their own job is more important than hundreds of thousands of other jobs.
there is a self study which im experimenting on one of these topics which i learned so much. from understanding human reaction and response. Makes me pretty geeky lol but the data i have assembled. it’s outstanding.
Hello persistant internal monologue.
I think it’s safe to say that if you see yourself as worthless, you are probably the exact opposite, and vice versa?