“You” being used here as a “general you,” rather than an “accusatory you.” No offense intended.

I’d love to. I really would. It’s just that.. well. I’m not going to air my grievances. I’m not going to try to explain myself to someone who persecutes me while assuming too much and knowing too little (EvilCritter) and be a cry baby about it (to you, Phyre). I’m not one to assume people really care about my problems, because in all actuality, I don’t even think I do. I expect no pity because I give none.

>But it seems to me that you can actually enjoy sex if you really wanted to, but you’ve chosen not to do so with him, not because you don’t want kids, but for some other reason.

No. I really can’t. I really actually get no enjoyment out of it.

>why wouldn’t you be looking for an alternative to your IUD?

Retarded-ass doctors tend to diminish that hope because I’m apparently too stupid to decide what I want for my vagina.

>If you are absolutely certain you are going to tough it out with him, why not ask him to get snipped instead? Or does he also believe that you may want kids some day? And if not, why not try other birth control solutions?

I did, and he said it’s cool. He doesn’t think that. I do want too, but there isn’t a doctor I’ve met who fucking cares about that.

>It just sounds to me like the two of you are punishing each other needlessly. He’s punishing you for your perceived unwillingness to be intimate with him, and you are punishing him for his lashing out in frustration, though I’m not entirely sure you realize how difficult it is for a guy to be with someone they love, and not be able to be intimate with them.

He knew what he was getting, just like I know what might happen to him going into the military. He might come back with no limbs… or might not even come back at all… That doesn’t mean I would stop loving him.
I’m not entirely sure if you realize it’s equally, if not more, frustrating to me. This is intensive stress he’s put on me and has created for literally no reason, other than his selfish need.

>I guess what I’m really interested in knowing is whether you actually do want to ever be able to have sex with your husband, and if not, why?

I’d love to. It’s just not physically possible for me from the IUD and the combination of Hashimoto’s and anti-depressants I take to make me nicer. Yeah, this is me nicer, but with IUD hormone (progesterone, the pregnancy hormone). Hashimoto’s makes me have a low libido. He used to tell me to fuck off because, “it’s been five times all ready.” 😛

Thanks, Nyokki. You’re a sweetie. C:

>Nyokki pointed out, in another post, that you do not have to have sex in order to be intimate. And I agree with her. I think all the hurtful things he does to you are because of his frustration. I think that if you really would have sex with him if you could, maybe you can show it in other ways.

Oh, I never disagreed for a moment. But he’s someone who can’t just have an appetizer, he has to have his full-course meal.

>Just my overinflated $.02

And I appreciated every bit~

>First off, I’m a woman,
Yipes. I never expected a woman would think that I should let my man run around with other bitches and potentially give me an STD if I ever get change.

>Secondly, don’t tell your story on teh interwebs and expect not to be judged. It’s the internet. We’ll never meet, I have no need to sugar coat things with you, so I’m free to tell you exactly what I think. And what I think is that I don’t want to hear any more about your bleak existence.

Siiiigh. I don’t care if you want to. I’m just telling you that I think you’re awfully assumptive to tell me all about my life story from two comments when you’re a newfag here.

>Phyreblade is super sweet and gently thoughtful, but I thing your relationship sounds less like a marriage and more like a prison sentence. A bad prison sentence in some third world country. You and your husband sound like you are bound together by webs of hostility. Seriously, you both must really love that fucking cat.

She is. She’s beautiful. <3
Anyway, your key word there is, “I think.” (I’m going to hate myself if this is [] instead of ) The only thing we actually ever bitch at each other about is sex. We laugh at the same shit. I know him better than he does. So you just thinking that me not wanting to have sex with him (let alone anyone) is a prison sentence makes me think you had a really bad experience with someone you treated you poorly and I feel sorry for you.

And yes, we do love my cat I’ve had for ten years.

>I think the big question, that I really don’t care to hear the answer to because I am finding humanity as a whole depressing because of this convo, is, if you don’t want kids, will never even let your husband touch you, then why don’t you get the fucking IUD taken out? Don’t hand me that “stupid doctors” crap. Find another doctor. Hell, find a Catholic doctor who thinks birth control is evil and he won’t argue with you. Your excuses smell like bullshit.

I never thought about that Catholic doctor thing but I should totally do it, but if you’re finding this depressing, have you not watched the news lately? There are far worse things to worry about. Also, I have. I’d give you a link to the LJ entry for cf_hardcore I did about it and how utterly pissed I was (which got me to call the AMA, my insurance company, et c.) that this bitch wouldn’t give a fuck about me.

You’re blowing this out of proportion. I was trying to deal with the high road but since you’re driveling down into nonsense, maybe I’ll take a moment to say this: Maybe your fucking implications make you unbearable to be around, therefore, you’re single.

>I believe, based on all the things you’ve said, that you are happy being miserable, and you like to share the pain around as much as you can. Humans seek human company for emotional support and physical affection. Your poor sad, angry, frustrated hubby is getting neither from you, and you like that just fine. Ugh. I don’t blame him for being angry and bitchy. Too bad he doesn’t have a physical ailment to blame it on, like you do. You seem to expect us to sympathize with you. Not a freaking chance. You sound like a real piece of work. All the best to your husband. I hope, someday, he is able to gather the tattered remants of his ego and find happiness elsewhere.

I fucking lol’d. Over two comments and you know my life story. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I’ve needed this.

>Hubby agreed to a vasectomy (they wouldn’t tie my tubes)

And Nyokki has two kids, if I am not mistaken, and they won’t tie her tubes. I’m twenty years old and have no kids. If you’ve never been down this route of trying to be sterilized then you actually don’t know how much bullcrap I get for, “being too young.”

So enjoy your unfounded and uninformed opinions, Critter. I’m sure they’ll serve you well in the dating world.